Priorities are key to a solid foundation.
When I sit back and think of my years as a collegiate athlete, I remember all of the great times I had. Those great times that are in my thoughts are also the same times that caused my ultimate goal to dwindle.
I was a player who wanted to play professionally. I never wanted anything more than that, or so that is what I kept telling myself. But the fact of the matter is that my everyday rituals were not matching up with my dreams I wanted to achieve.
For example, often I chose to hang with a girl over working on my weaknesses. Or I hit the party on a Thursday night instead of watching film to better my knowledge of my game and what I needed to work on. You see, I was just going through life wishing. I never really put my 100% towards my dream of playing professionally because my priorities were not aligned with my goals.
If you were to make a list of the top 3 things I focused on while in college, it would go as follows:
- Hanging with the guys
- Working on my game
Sadly, school work wasn’t even in my top three. And for over 2 years after my college career was over, it was a struggle to figure out what it was that I wanted to do. There is no coincidence in that.
How can we expect to reach our goal without putting in the necessary work towards it, each and every day? The fact that we dream big is not enough. The work is where the rubber meets the road. If you look at my priorities as a player you will probably guess what I got pretty good at by the end of my college life. I was excellent at socializing and being the guy who could get the girls. I don’t say that to brag, but rather to illustrate that the top priorities will manifest for you in due time. I even got a couple of offers to play overseas and in Mexico, but nothing that was worth it. Imagine if my number 3 priority was my number 1??
Take a minute to think about what it is you want, and put that on the left side of a piece of paper. Now on the right side of the paper put the top 5 things it would take to achieve those goals. On a separate piece of paper put the top 5 things that you focus on currently. Chances are if you have not reached your goal those two lists of priorities are not going to match up.
When I talk with people about working out, the first thing they tell me is that they do not have the time to work out. The honest answer to this is if you want it, you will do it. Whatever are your top priorities you will do. When I weighed 210 lbs. as a college coach, my priorities involved recruiting players, breaking down films, and helping run practices. Working out was not on my list. When I was fed up with how I felt, working out took the top spot on my list of priorities – and guess what? I found time! You make time for the things you want to do. Working out is not fun for most people, and because that lack of fun exists in their minds, they rationalize with the excuse of “I can’t find time.”
The day of achieving your goal is made real by clearly identifying and steadfastly sticking to your priorities. In the next topic we will focus on Perseverance. No one said it is going to be easy to accomplish your dreams.
Until Next Time